In the Name of Allah, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful
“Truly! To Allah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return” (Sura 2: 156)
“It is one of the rights of a Muslim over another Muslim that he should visit his grave.“
-Imam Ja’fer As-Sadiq (A.S.)
Visiting the graves of faithful believers brings about a great reward from the Almighty, as it gives lessons in religiousness and arouses the remembrance of the temporary nature of this world. When we lose those near and dear to us, we deal with this separation in different ways. Islam tells us that when it comes to the living and the dead, the living can still do things to improve the spriritual status of the dead during the barzakh, the purgatory.
It is recommended to visit the graves of the family members since, in words of the Sixth Imam (a.s.), “they recognize you [when you visit them] and feel lonely when you leave them.” Bibi Fatima (a.s.) used to visit the graves of Hazrat Hamza in Uhud on a weekly baiss. So to visit the graves of the marhumeen and reciting Surah al-Fatiha and Surah Qadr for them is a way of comforting them. However, you can also send them gifts of thawab by giving charity on their behalf to the poor and the needy.
In order to fulfill this tradition of our faith, it is important to know the graves of our family-members and, at the least, once in a while visit the graves to give them comfort on a spiritual level.